Oppression

I'm studying theatre of the oppressed in one of my classes and it is really interesting to contemplate oppression in our society and mormon culture in particular. It's especially interesting to view it through anothers eyes, because there are things that I don't consider oppresive that others might and thus I don't feel oppressed by them. So if I don't feel oppressed by something am I still being oppressed. Does oppression hinge on the reaction of the oppressed?
It's easy to say yes to that when its an issue of, the Honor Code, for example. Some people would consider it oppressive. After all it says that I can't go to anothers apartment after midnight, I can't use their restroom, I can't wear certain types of clothing. I'm sure to lots of people this seems very oppressive. To me, however, I don't feel oppressed. It's something that I would choose to do anyway. So am I being oppressed?
However, if you use the example of a woman who grew up in a patriarchaly domineering culture where women have certain responsibilities and certain things they can and cannot do. She is of the personality type where that seems normal and she accepts it. She doesn't feel oppressed by the fact that she can't do certain things, it just seems normal to her. Is she being oppressed? She doesn't feel the need or desire to change her position. If for example she were required to cover her head at all times. This seems normal to her and she would not question but if a guy tried to tell me that I always had to cover my head I would feel oppressed. So is she being oppressed when she is told to cover her head?
I think it is a very interesting concept to consider as we deal with different countries. I think we always need to get to know the people there before we come to any conclusions about treatment and rituals of other cultures and countries.